Communication. It is one of the biggest barriers to healthy, vibrant relationships, or should we say to God-honoring relationships. With that said, is communication our problem or is it us?

Romans 7:6 reads, "But, now we are released from the law, having died to that which held us captive, so that we serve in the new way of the Spirit and not in the old way of the written code." Hebrews 7:18-19 reads, "For, on the one hand, a former commandment is set aside because of its weakness and uselessness (for the law made nothing perfect); but on the other hand, a better hope is introduced, through which we draw near to God."

Paul in Rom 6:1 asks, "What shall we say, then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound?" To which the obvious answer is NO! I’ve really enjoyed all the songs that we recently sang on Sunday mornings about our identity and position in Christ. Some of the lyrics in No Longer Slaves by Bethel Music read, "I am surrounded –- By the arms of the father - I am surrounded - By songs of deliverance - We've been liberated - From our bondage - We're the sons and the daughters - Let us sing our freedom…. I’m no longer a slave to fear, I am a child of God."

In a marriage, there is usually one spouse who is better at something, i.e. communication, finances…. One may truly articulate words better, dissect meaning better…The other may be better at letting words roll off their back, letting things pass, moving beyond more quickly. Both in their humanness, in their flesh, will have the propensity to think that the problem lies in the other person. If they would just… for instance ‘like me’… But, being better AT something is not the same thing as BEING better. We must remember, the ground is level at the foot of the cross. Christ died for all sins and if we use our ‘strengths’ or our ‘weaknesses’ as tools to serve ourselves verses ‘serving in the new way of the Spirit’ than we fool ourselves into thinking we are better. Christ died for all extremes on the spectrum of human goodness, skill, ability...the law defines how we fall short.

The fruit of the Spirit is where we find perfect 'love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law' - because the law cannot make us perfect, the law cannot produce holiness-right, God-honoring communication, finances… we are told in John 15, apart from Christ, we can do nothing.

We are the marriage mentors, we are teaching on communication tonight. We have failed epically this week. I was focused on what I think I do better- but I did not do better because I am not better. I am no longer a slave, I am a child of God, I have freedom in Christ, but even so, ONLY by the power of the Holy Spirit, can His word govern my heart, mind, soul, spirit to produce a God-honoring life that walks in step with the Spirit.

"But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. BUT if you are led by the Spirit…" Gal 5:16-18a


Help us Lord to serve our spouses in the new way of the Spirit, help us keep in step with your Spirit so we will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Forgive us Lord that we fail. Thank you for Hope as we draw near to You.


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A highly respected member of the Jewish community, known by everyone for his service, has a little daughter who is suffering and near death.   There was also an unnamed woman who was suffering an embarrassing and debilitating medical condition. After suffering as long as she could, she sought medical help only to have her condition worsen after seeing “many doctors”. Mark 5:21-43 intertwines both stories and we nervously watch to see which one Jesus will save. What will His choice tell us about His priorities?


Mark describes a large crowd pressing in from every direction to see the popular Jesus. In the middle of the chaos, a leader of the synagogue came and fell at the Messiah’s feet. The respected but scared father left his daughter's side to find the Savior. Upon hearing the father’s plea, Jesus started towards the man’s home. How many things must have flowed through Jairus mind all at once? I know this will work. Will this work? What if we’re too late? Is Jesus really able to heal my daughter? As his pace quickened towards his home, he must have realized that Jesus was not right by his side. Instead, Jesus was looking around the crowd for someone who had “touched” him. Didn’t he know they needed to hurry? Didn’t he know his daughter was not going to last much longer? Jairus had to be confused. Couldn’t this wait until his daughter was saved? Who is he talking to now? Do I know her? Please hurry Lord!


We learn from these intertwined stories that Jesus is never hurried and He is never too busy to take care of each individual who calls out to Him. The unconscious little girl who’s worried father is a respected member of the community and the unnamed woman who has an unspeakable ailment. Both are the top priority for the Messiah.


God cares for the young and the old and everyone in between. He cares for the rich and prominent and He cares for the weak, poor, and infirmed. The unifying factor for Jairus and for the woman was their faith. They both believed in the power of Jesus to immediately address their needs. Both took action that testified of their belief and both received what only God could provide.


May each of us take time today to know that Jesus is listening to each one of us individually and that He alone is able to give us exactly what we need. He is infinite and He can address everyone of our finite needs. Praise the One who sets us free!

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