Women should learn in quiet submission[1]…submitting to their own husbands,   as Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him lord.[2]

It is interesting how we as husband’s too often focus on what our wives should be doing and not what we should be doing. [3] She MUST respect me[4], she must submit to me[5], she must obey me.[6] Interestingly enough, the Bible never directly says that a wife MUST obey her husband. The closest you can come to it is in 1 Peter 3:6 when it states that “Sarah obeyed Abraham.” However, it doesn’t say Abraham made Sarah obey. Sarah made a choice to obey Abraham. Subtle, but significantly different. I would compare this attitude to that of Christ’s as described in Philippians 2:5-7b.

"Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant."

Just to be clear, nowhere in the Bible are husbands instructed to act as benevolent dictators and MAKE their wives respect, submit, or obey them. I would argue that is God’s job to work on their attitude. Thus, we are required to lead and influence our wives in a loving[7] manner, putting them above our own needs[8], and seek their best interests[9]. Scripture does have very specific instructions for husbands. We are exhorted to understand them and to show honor to them,[10] to love our wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her [11], and not to be harsh with them.[12],[13]

What should be of paramount concern for us husbands is to do what the Lord requires of us,[14] while allowing God to deal with our wives. Afterall, He is a big God and He can handle it. So, if we are going to be the godly husbands the Lord has us called to be, we need to stop worrying about our rights and what our wives are NOT doing, then seriously start asking ourselves HOW we can better do what God has called us to do. First, start with your relationship with the Lord and what can you own in the relationship. I would encourage you to ask your wife how you could be doing these things better, she is an expert on the subject anyway, then commit to JUST DO IT.

[1] 1 Tim 2:11

[2] 1 Pet 3:5b-6a

[3] It is my experience, if your focus is out there, on what she is NOT doing, YOU WILL NOT have joy in your marriage, this focus just produces bitterness in the end. You must focus on HIM, then what we should do THROUGH HIM, then…

[4] Eph 5:33b

[5] Eph 5:22

[6] On I side note, It is my experience, if your focus is out there, on what she is NOT doing, YOU WILL NOT have joy in your marriage, this focus just produces bitterness in the end.

[7] 1 Cor 13:4-8a

[8] Mark 10:42-45; 1 Tim 5:8

[9] Eph 4:29

[10] 1 Pet 3:7

[11] Eph 5:25

[12] Col 3:19

[13] There is one more instruction to husbands in 1 Cor 7:1-10, about giving our wives their conjugal rights, though that is another can of worms. Note it does say “right.”

[14] Mic 6:8

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“Grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers.” Proverbs 17:6 ESV

We have recently lost my father-in-law. He was an amazing man. His memorial service was filled with family and friends who knew and loved him and whose lives he has touched in deeply meaningful ways. I couldn’t help but think of Wayne as I read this verse. He has not only left his children and their spouses with an incredible legacy for us and our beautiful grandchildren, who are his crown; he also exemplified the second half of this verse. Although he would be quick to give all glory to God (and would be right in doing so), he, in a very real sense, is the glory of us as his children and in-laws. What a tremendous testimony of a life of faith, perseverance through trials, humble sacrifice and service to God and to his family and many, many other people— all to God’s praise and glory. It is a great honor and blessing to have been gifted with such a godly patriarch of our family.

I pray that this would be true of your family as well. Regardless of one’s family background and heritage, however, I would pray that we would desire to allow God to use us for His glory to either continue the rich legacy or to start it afresh with our own (present and future) children and grandchildren. Let’s also be sure to honor our parents and express our appreciation to them. Father’s Day is coming shortly, and we’d do well to show our love and honor to our living fathers and to honor those who are no longer with us on this earth by reflecting gratefully upon their lives and all they’ve meant to us.

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