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I recently read an article that stated the number one reason that marriages fail is because of the “failure to wed.”  Marriages fail because they are not able to become ONE and maintain that ONENESS.  We have separate accounts, we have separate views on parenting, we have separate views on spending, and we have separate views on… These individual issues become just a reflection of a deeper problem… the failure to fully wed!  “To wed” or “to become one” is a lifelong, ever changing process.

This process is difficult.  So difficult that for many Christians they are satisfied with the fact that they would NEVER get a divorce, while at the same time they sleep in different beds.  Many married believers truly dislike the person they live with.  And although it is admirable and Biblical to stay married; I don’t believe this is the picture that Christ intended for us as believers.  I would venture to say this grieves the Holy Spirit.  To technically be married, but figuratively divorced behind closed doors is sad.

Jesus prayed in John 17:11, “And I am no longer in the world, but they are in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, keep them in your name, which you have given me, that they may be one, even as we are one.”   Oneness on ALL levels is the heart of the Father, and it is what Jesus prayed for even as He prepared to go to the cross.  MAKE US ONE!

Many of us started off as ONE, but over time we lost track of the fact that we are all changing and growing.  It’s not enough to be ONE if we don’t maintain that ONENESS.   There is a responsibility that goes with marriage and that is maintaining ONENESS.   I was listening to someone’s testimony about their marriage, and they were making the point that they had changed.   And in light of that fact, she stated that it was her responsibility to communicate those changes to her spouse.  You can’t expect or assume they will just know or figure it out.  Because eventually those unmet expectations will grow into frustration.   As I change, I must intentionally and effectively communicate those changes to my spouse.  I must also accept that as my spouse changes, I must also change.  We must work together to maintain our connection and oneness, otherwise separation, division, misunderstanding, and ultimately divorce will creep in over time.

So, on this Marriage Monday, I challenge you to go to work to create, restore, reconnect, and maintain the oneness God intends for your marriage!  Lord, make us one!

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Recently, I was watching a news report and observing different reactions on social media.  And, I think to myself… we as Christians might as well be silent (not really) because there is so much disunity and diversity of perspective out there, that our impact on the world is severely limited.  Which might be ok, because for the most part Christianity has become so self-centered that reaching the world is barely on the radar.  From the prosperity gospel to building walls to having a better economy to identity politics, the focus for much of Christianity today is ME and self-preservation.


In Psalms 12:1-8, David starts out by saying, “Save, O Lord, for the godly one is gone; for the faithful have vanished from among the children of man.”  This is a frightening thought!  David says, God, we need you because your people have disappeared.  Maybe they have become silent or maybe they have been silenced or maybe they are just distracted.  Whatever the case, they are not where they are needed.  So, David goes on to say, “everyone utters lies…”, and with “flattering lips and a double heart they speak.”  David is disheartened because he sees darkness, and the light has vanished.  “Cut off all flattering lips, the tongue that makes great boasts,” David requests.  He is basically saying, LORD shut up the liar and the proud boaster!  


And then the LORD speaks.  What is HE thinking?  What is HIS perspective?  The righteous are gone, the wicked speak lies, and the LORD says, “because the poor are plundered, because the needy groan, I will now arise…!”  When I read passages like this, it makes me wonder have I missed it.  Do I truly have a heart and a life that reflects God’s heart?  Am I too republican or democrat to be like Jesus?  Am I too pro-black?  Am I too pro-America?  Maybe “I will arise” for one of these causes, but do “I arise” for what God arises for?  God arises for the poor, the needy, the widow, the fatherless, and the helpless.  We tend to arise for issues that impact us, but God arises for those who can’t help themselves, in spite of whatever issues they may have.


What will you arise for? Lord help me to arise when you ARISE!


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