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I read a quote recently by C.S. Lewis. In the quote, Lewis says, “…when the serpent was talking to Eve, all of Heaven of Heaven was waiting…waiting to see if Eve would eat of the tree.”

That statement reveals the heart of our Lord. He was waiting to see what Eve would do. You see He created us, fashioned us, formed us all in His image to have a relationship with Him. To enjoy Him, know Him, His love, His Son and the power of His Spirit. And He gave us a free will to choose to have that relationship … or to reject Him. Eve chose sin, Adam along with her, for he too wanted what Eve chose. So now we all possess sin and our Lord still waits to see what we will choose. In His love, even while we sin, He sent His son to die for us.

We too wait sometimes for our spouse; wondering if they will choose to make the righteous choice. We suffer disappointment over and over again because they don’t. I wonder though, do we stop to think that as we may be waiting on our spouse to live and practice righteousness, God is simultaneously waiting on us to make the righteous decision? James 4 is clear, I grumble, I complain, I quarrel and fight because life is not going the way I want. I’m inconvenienced, I have to pick up someone else’s slack, he/she didn’t answer my text/call… I ask of God because I want God to give me what I want—cause my spouse to make the right choices, to think of me, make my life easier… bless me oh Lord. And God is waiting…

It grieves me that God is grieved over my sinful choices. But as Paul reminds us in Rom. 7, "who can save us from this body of death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord." Then in 8:1, "there is therefore (because we still serve the law of sin in our flesh) now no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus." Paul further reminds us in 1 Cor. 15:56-57, the sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, who gives us victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. In context, yes, victory over death at the resurrection, but God gives us everything we need for life and godliness every day. Every day we can have victory through Jesus Christ. Every day we have new mercies and we can walk in newness of life. Every day we can choose righteousness and when we do, heaven rejoices, God rejoices because Christ was steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of His Father. His labor was not in vain ever, but especially when we choose obedience.

Are you waiting on your spouse for a better marriage? Is there something God is waiting on you to do for a better marriage?

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