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We are still stuck at home. Some are having to work from home, school their children… The sun is shining outside and who doesn’t want to be in it. There are more memes surfacing day to day. One parent has their children taped and tied up so they can ‘work’. in today’s comics, the husband is taking the dog for a walk for the 5th time—all before breakfast… are these times trying your ability to love and cherish your spouse? Do you know the difference between the two? In His book, Cherish, Gary Thomas, quotes the urban dictionary uses the word cherish to describe someone who is unbelievably amazing: ‘She is so cherish’.  That sentence – She is so cherish – is the style in which Song of Songs is writeen. Indeed, as love is known by 1 Cor. 13, so cherish is captured in song of Songs. Below is comparison of the two found in his book.


  • Love is about being gracious and altruistic.                  Love is patient, love is kind.   1 Cor. 13:4
  • Cherish is about being enthusiastic and enthralled.    How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice. SOS 4:10
  • Love tends to be quiet and understated.                   [Love] does not envy, it does not boast. 1 Cor. 13:4
  • Cherish boasts boldly and loudly
  • My beloved is radiant and ruddy,                      outstanding among ten thousand. SOS 5:10
  • Love thinks about others with selflessnessis it not self-seeking.   1 Cor. 13:4-5
  • [love]is not proud. It does not dishonor others,
  • Cherish thinks about its beloved with praise.
  • Your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. SOS 2:14
  • Love doesn’t want the worst for someone.
  • Love does not delight in evil. 1 Cor. 13:6
  • Cherish celebrates the best in someone.
  • How beautiful you are, my darling!                           Oh,how beautiful!   SOS 1:15
  • Love puts up with a lot.
  • [Love] always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Cor. 13:7
  • Cherish enjoys a lot.
  • His mouth is sweetness itself;                                              he is altogether lovely. SOS 5:16
  • Love is about commitment.
  • Love….endures all things. Love never ends. 1 Cor. 13:7-8 ESV
  • Cherish is about delight and passion.
  • Your name is like perfume poured out.   SOS 1:3

Love and cherish never compete—they complement each other and even complete each other. At times they certainly overlap. By pursuing cherish, we’ll become better lovers as well. *

*Cherish by Gary Thomas pp 19-20

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